When you are best man at a wedding ceremony, you and the maid of honor play major roles in the success of the event. Traditionally, one of the most important jobs for the best man is to give the wedding toast. The best man speech sets the tone for the entire event.
A great wedding speech can draw a standing ovation from the guests and get the wedding reception started on a celebratory note. A poor best man speech can pour cold water on the bride and groom’s special day. On this page, you will find several free best man speech ideas, templates, outlines, and examples. Use these to help prepare for your big moment in your best friend’s big day.
In this article:
- Writing the Best Man Speech
- Best Man Wedding Speeches Dos and Don’ts
- Two Best Man Speech Templates
- List of Best Man Speech Ideas
- Best Man Speech Examples
- More Wedding Speech Examples
Writing the Best Man Speech
Writing a best man speech becomes easy with just a little bit of prep work.
First, decide what kind of speech you want to write. Think about the type of wedding – is it casual or formal? Religious or secular? How do you know the groom? How long have you known each other for? Consider factors like these when drafting your speech.
For example, if it’s a casual wedding and the groom is your childhood best friend, you could write a funny speech. Avoid cliches and get guests laughing with true, silly stories of growing up together.
At a formal religious wedding, however, you might want to strike a more serious tone. Try a touching anecdote about how the groom first met the bride, or a memory of how the groom has made a difference in your life.
Of course, your speech doesn’t have to be just funny or just sentimental. Many best man speeches have different emotional elements, from touching to hilarious. Start your draft by taking notes. Choose the stories you want to tell, a toast you want to make, or a quote that will set the tone. Don’t forget to introduce yourself to the guests near the beginning of the speech. You’ll also want to end strong, with a memorable story or final thought.
Once you have your speech outlined, drafting the rest becomes easy. Practice by reading it out loud a few times to make sure your speech won’t be too long and flows nicely. Remember that you’ll need to pause for applause or laughter at times.
Before you start writing, make sure to watch these speech examples for inspiration. We have samples of different types of best man and wedding speeches, to help you write yours with confidence.
Before you Start: Prior to writing your speech, it is a good idea to take some time to write down a few things about the bride and groom; such as how they met, what the groom was like before they met, how he’s changed for the better since knowing her, funny stories about the groom, how you know the groom and the bridegroom, and related topics.
Introduction: Since there may be several wedding guests you don’t know, start by introducing yourself, and throwing out an opening line that will grab the audience’s attention. This is usually a good time for a couple of speech jokes. You don’t have to be a stand-up comedian up there, just throw out a line or two to lighten the mood and help make your speech humorous. Also, be sure to thank the bridesmaids, groomsmen, bride father, wedding guests, and everyone that helped make this day possible.
Middle: This is where you share something special about the bride and groom. Though you may know the groom better, try to make it about both of them as much as possible. In this section, you may decide to share a funny story or inspiring story, or talk about the qualities of the bride and groom. If you decide to go full stand-up comic, make sure to keep it light-hearted and avoid sharing any humiliating stories about the groom. If you can pull off a stand-up comedy routine that is uplifting and makes the groom and bride look good, you’ll have a sure winner.
Closing: Every great speech has a strong close. When it comes to best man wedding speeches, you are expected to raise your glass and propose a toast to the happy couple. Your toast might be a famous quote about love and marriage, a blessing, or just a line or two congratulating the bride and groom and wishing them well. Practice your toast several times so it flows naturally and doesn’t sound robotic like you’re just reading it from a card.
Best Man Wedding Speeches Dos and Don’ts
- Do try to relax before getting up in public to speak
- Do have a story to tell
- Do use glowing words when talking about the bride
- Do use humor to lighten the mood
- Do take the time to say what you need to say
- Do end your wedding speech on a positive, uplifting note
- Don’t bring up controversial topics like ex-girlfriends or the bachelor party
- Don’t make the story all about you
- Don’t drink too much before giving your speech
- Don’t use crude and vulgar jokes, or inside jokes that only you and the groom understand
- Don’t make your best man speech too long
- Don’t use quotes or one-liners throughout the entire speech
Two Best Man Speech Templates
Introduction: Good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen. My name is _______ and (Groom) is my good friend/brother. When (Groom) asked me to be his best man, he gave me some tips about how to give the perfect best man speech. Most of these tips were completely useless, but one that was useful is to thank the bride and groom and everyone else involved with this event. So let me get that one out of the way now (laughter). Seriously, I do want to thank the lady and gentleman of the hour, (Groom) and (Bride) for asking me to be such an important part of their big day. I also want to thank the entire wedding party, the families of the bride and groom, and everyone who worked so hard to make this day truly special.
Middle: I’ve known (Groom) for ________ years and we’ve been through alot together. I could go on and on about all the dumb things (Groom) and I have done in the past, but I’ll save that until later in the evening when we’ve had a little more to drink (laughter). For now, I’d rather focus on the smart moves he’s made, like (list a few of his accomplishments here). As great as those things are though, the smartest move (Groom) has ever made is marrying (Bride). When I first met (Bride), I knew that she was special. (Bride) is (list a few of the bride’s positive attributes here). This is why I know that she is the best thing that ever happened to (Groom).
Closing: So please join me in toasting the greatest decision (Groom) has ever made. To my very best friend/brother (Groom) and his new wife (Bride). Congratulations on becoming newlyweds, and may you enjoy a lifetime of love and happiness together.
Introduction: Good evening ladies and gentlemen, my name is _________ and I’m honored to serve as (Groom’s) best man. Before I get into the obligatory character assassination of the groom, let me take a moment to thank everyone who made this day possible. First of all, thank you (Groom) for asking me to be your best man, and trusting me with this important wedding speech. Thanks also to (Bride), the rest of the groomsmen, bridesmaids, and everyone who helped make their wedding day a success. And (Bride), you’ve never looked so beautiful as you do today.
Middle: (Groom) and I go way back, and we’ve had a lot of good times together. One story in particular stands out that really speaks to (Groom’s) character. It was the time when (insert story here. It can be funny, but make sure it paints the groom in a positive light). When I met (Bride), I finally understood why (Groom) can’t stop talking about her. She is (list a few of the bride’s positive attributes here). (Bride) and (Groom) are made for each other, and they are a shining example of what true love should be.
Closing: Please stand as we toast the bride and groom. Congratulations (Bride) and (Groom), I’m so excited for both of you. To love, joy, laughter, and a lifetime of happiness together.
List of Best Man Speech Ideas
- Compliment the bride for being kind enough to marry the groom.
- Give funny reasons the bride married the groom.
- The classic “groom roast” speech.
- Share an amusing anecdote or two about you and the groom.
- Share a funny story about the happy couple.
- Share a mildly embarrassing story about the groom.
- Share some amusing anecdotes about what it’s like to be married (works best if you’re already married yourself).
- Humorous best man speech about a funny personality trait the groom has.
- “Set the record straight” in a funny way about some rumor about the groom.
- Offer light-hearted sympathy to the bride for what she’s “getting herself into”.
- Talk about some weird behavior on the part of the groom that occurred at the rehearsal dinner.
- Talk about some averted disasters leading up to the wedding day.
- Reveal some of the funny things that occurred behind the scenes.
- Use props to illustrate a funny story about the groom or the wedding preparations.
- Display photos or videos on a screen of groom’s funny and/or mildly embarrassing moments.
Heartfelt and Personal
- The “I’m thankful to know the groom and bride” speech.
- The “I’m honored to be the groom best man” speech.
- The “smart move by the groom” speech.
- The “you two are ideal soulmates” speech.
- “The groom is my brother” wedding speech.
- “The groom is my best friend” wedding speech.
- “The groom and I go way back” speech.
- “The groom has done so much for me” speech.
- “The bride and groom have amazing families” speech.
- The “nothing could stand in the way of the bride and groom marrying” speech.
- Highlight the groom’s attributes.
- Encouraging advice for the bride and groom.
- Talk about how the bride and the groom met.
- Talk about the bride and groom’s blossoming courtship.
- Single out one endearing trait of the groom and discuss it in detail.
- Talk about the groom’s amazing achievements.
- Talk about something amazing the bride and groom did together.
- Share a story about how the groom helped someone.
- Use inspirational quotes to encourage the bride and groom.
- Discuss the beauty of marriage.
- Discuss the joy of growing old together.
- Discuss the bride and groom’s passions and why they are made for each other.
- Show deep admiration for the groom and bride.
- Talk about how the groom has changed for the better since meeting the bride.
- Express gratitude to the father of the bride for his kind words.
- Salute the parents and family of the bridal couple.
- The “God joined the two of you together” speech.
- The “put God first and your marriage will succeed” speech.
- Marriage advice about loving your spouse.
- Marriage advice about putting your spouse’s needs first.
- Marriage advice about following your calling.
- Marriage advice about praying together.
- Christmas-themed speech (during the holiday season) about the most wonderful gift of marriage.
- Best man speech closed with a prayer.
- Best man speech closed with a scripture reading.
- Best man speech closed with a proverb about love and marriage.
Best Man Speech Examples
An amusing best man speech doesn’t need to be complicated. A few well-timed one-liners can make for a hilarious speech – there’s no need to write elaborate jokes. This speech gets easy laughs just like a stand-up comedian would. And remember, it’s okay to look at your notes!
“Every now and then we get such a rare opportunity to speak of a man who is witty, charming, intelligent, and good looking – but I really shouldn’t talk about myself.”
A best man speech doesn’t have to be long to be great. At just over 4 minutes long, this speech is entertaining and memorable, as the best man reminisces about growing up with the groom. There are plenty of funny moments and touching anecdotes in this speech, in spite of its length.
“Brett and I used to fight a lot when we were kids, until he got bigger than me and we miraculously became friends.”
Brother Wedding Speech
If the groom has brothers, there’s a good chance that one of them will be the best man. A brotherly best man speech offers plenty of opportunities for humor. The best man might talk about the groom’s weird behavior as a kid, or how he first met the bride. This best man shares both the difficulties and joys of growing up with the groom in his speech.
“I couldn’t be happier growing up with my best friend in the same house.”
Best Man Toast
Many best man speeches are toasts to the bride and groom. A toast is a short speech that invites guests to raise their glass with best wishes for the newlyweds. This best man gets emotional as he speaks. Yet he also uses the power of a funny story to keep this wedding toast light-hearted.
“Ryan was always the big brother that I never had, and I looked up to him.”
More Wedding Speech Examples
Same-Sex Wedding Speech
Some same-sex wedding speeches follow standard wedding speech traditions, while others also touch on the significance of same-sex couples having the opportunity to marry. As this powerful speech reminds guests, love is something everyone needs in their life.
“Love is not a movement – it is not a political stance. It is an essential aspect of a purposeful life.”
Father of the Bride Speech
This emotional speech speech from the father of the bride is heartfelt and passionate. The father tells his daughter about how she taught him to see the world in new ways as she grew up, in a beautiful speech.
“I can honestly say that I saw life more fully through your eyes […] I loved and lived more deeply because of what you brought to my life,”
Like the best man speech, the groom’s wedding speech is often funny, but can also be emotionally powerful. For this groom speech, the bride takes the stage too, making this a powerful couple’s moment that the wedding guests get to witness.
“I’m just so excited that I get to see what you have planned for the rest of our lives.”
Bride’s speeches are less traditional, but can add a nice touch to the special day. This bride surprised everyone with a hilarious speech – in song! Although she wrote it, she had musicians perform it for her in a truly a memorable wedding moment. The parody song includes joking lines, and then thanks notable wedding guests in song form.
“If it was her your ears would bleed.”
Christian Wedding Speech
This Christian wedding toast starts with a story in which the father of the bride finds out his wife is having another baby. He prays for it to be a girl. The father keeps up this speech format by mentioning different things he asked the Lord for throughout his daughter’s life, making this a touching religious wedding speech.
“Lord, if it’s your will, make it a girl. And he did.”
A roast is a playful way to tease a member of the wedding party. The bride might be roasted by the maid of honor, or the groom by the best man. This maid of honor keeps guests laughing by making friendly fun of the bride and groom. But she also balances the roast portion of the speech with powerful memories.
“You both think you’re right all the time.”